Letting Go

“To let go is to is to open a door, and  clear a pathway to set yourself free”

 As I sat on the Bali swing gazing at the breathtaking view, I was terrified of what would happen if the guy behind me let go of the swing. I am afraid of heights so the thought of being 255ft in the air frightened me to death. It took about 45mins to convince me to get on the swing. Once I got on, I held on tight to one of the mens arm and started crying like a baby, I whispered “please don’t let go, I’m scared” and in that moment, I realized I was not only afraid of heights but I was afraid of letting go. Fear of the unknown, the ‘what may happen if I let go?’


 I hold on to things for far too long, I forgive easily and I am quick to settle.Whether it be a failed friendship, a dead-end job or relationship that needs to end, I keep holding it. Since I graduated nursing school, I have been working at the same job, I complain everyday to my friends about how there’s no room to grow at this job but I haven’t quit. I am comfortable, I am afraid of what a new job might bring so I tell myself it’s better to stick with the devil you know than the angel you don’t.

Many years ago, I had a friend that I grew up with, a friend from high school. We did everything together. We were complete opposite, we had different views on life. The friendship was draining but I held on. After high-school she did something horrible and betrayed my trust. when I confronted her, she got angry and said some mean things. We fell apart! A few months later I wrote her an apology letter. Yes! I apologized for the way I handled the situation. Why? you ask, we were friends for years and I couldn’t imagine not having her as a friend, even though I knew we had grown apart and saw things differently. I couldn’t let her go, I was holding on to all the memories we shared. She was my  best-friend from high school, were supposed to grow old together, at least that was my thinking. Yes! I’ve been called naive many times. Luckily, she never responded, instead she told everyone that I was begging to be her friend. We never worked things out and I never got an apology but I was willing to forgive her, and I did. I was even willing to be her friend if she would have me, see the problem?

I hold on to relationships even when they expire. I tell myself I have invested too much time and energy into it so I might as well stick it out even if that means I have to live an unhappy life. How crazy is that! A lot of people do this but not everyone is brave enough to admit it. I was so hurt and disappointed by the way my marriage ended but now looking back at it, I think it needed to happen that way. It was so drastic, police, lawyers and judges had to get involved.  There’s  definitely no going back. I didn’t understand it at first but now I know that, this was God way of getting me out of it.  He knew I couldn’t do it on my own. If the marriage didn’t end that way, trust and believe, I would have tried to work things out even though I knew that the relationship was over years ago.

After all this time, I have now  learned that it is ok to let go and I am learning to find the good in every situation. I have to remind myself that not everyone you meet in this world are meant to stay in your life forever, they serve a purpose and once that purpose have been served, their job is done. You have to pray and ask God what were they here to teach you, and what can you learn from that situation. Figure it out and move on. 

Yes, I have lost a husband but I gained a child. I have a second chance to do things differently, I gained my freedom. I have confidence in the future and I know that there are greater things out there. I lost my high-school best-friend but I gained a lot of amazing friends that I now call my sisters. That friendship thought me the qualities I do not want in a friend. Now, I appreciate and value the friendships I have.

The moral of the story is, it’s ok to let go. Open yourself up to new possibilities. Getting on that swing was one of the best experinces I’ve had in my entire life, I am so happy I did it. Thanks for stopping by, don’t forgt to leave a comment if you enjoy reading this post.




  • Vivi
    December 14, 2018 at 8:51 pm

    Definitely inspiring. Love reading this post.

    • Emmalyn
      December 15, 2018 at 1:08 am

      Thank you, twin.
      Love and appreciate you.

  • Pearl
    December 14, 2018 at 9:53 pm

    Love the post! Thank you so much for sharing. So happy for your new season and now looking forward to mines even more after reading your blog. Blessings

    • Emmalyn
      December 15, 2018 at 1:07 am

      Thank you, Pearl.
      I appreciate you stopping by.
      I’m excited for your new chapter as well, keep me posted.

      Emmalyn L

  • Sarlea
    December 15, 2018 at 12:48 am

    You are absolutely right. Am really happy for this new chapter Of your life. Keep learning and moving forward

    • Emmalyn
      December 15, 2018 at 1:09 am

      Thank you Sarlea,
      Love your blog and all the fabulousness.

  • Marie
    December 15, 2018 at 1:06 am

    Omg I have tears in my eyes reading this. You speaking exactly what I needed to hear, let go. You know I’m so naive with everything and hold on when I need to let go. Thank you for this and I love you.?

    • Emmalyn
      February 27, 2019 at 11:38 pm

      We are all learning and growing, God knows our heart. Continue to be the amazing person that you are.

  • Fabbulousc
    December 15, 2018 at 2:40 pm

    Omg you are amazing…. Love this post … ITS OK TO LET GO AND AM LEARNING TO FIND THE GOOD IN EVERY SITUATION. Oh Love I enjoyed reading…. you are an inspiration …. an so happy for your new Journey you are taking on …. am very new to reading your blog posts since you when on your vacation …. and am so excited to keep on reading the next one #LifeLesson

    • Emmalyn
      December 16, 2018 at 5:10 am

      Ahhh thank you so much, Caroline.
      I appreciate all the love and support, it means a lot. I’m happy you enjoy reading it. If one person can take something away from it, I’m happy.
      Love your YouTube channel, best wishes.

  • Ashley
    December 15, 2018 at 6:31 pm

    This post was beautifully written! Letting go can be painful but look how much good letting go makes room for. I’m glad you’ve found peace and learned important lessons on the way. I wish you so much joy because you deserve it!

    • Emmalyn
      December 16, 2018 at 5:07 am

      Thank you, Ashley.
      Congratulations on the baby, what an exciting time. Cherish every moment, it goes by so fast.

  • Stella
    December 17, 2018 at 2:10 pm

    Hang on dear! You are definitely strong and everything happens for a reason. God doesn’t give us what we can’t handle. With your kind heart, you will attract amazing kind hearted people.


    • Emmalyn
      December 17, 2018 at 11:46 pm

      Thank you, Stella.
      I appreciate you stopping and your kind words. wishing you and your lovely family a Happy and Blessed Holiday.

  • Netsi
    December 23, 2018 at 6:42 am

    I cried reading your blog I thought it was only me in the world I hold on everything you mentioned and scared to let go are inspiring .Thanks for sharing

    • Emmalyn
      January 13, 2019 at 1:48 pm

      you are not alon, we are all in this together. we learn from. We learn our mistakes and life experinces.
      Happy New Year & Thank you so much for stopping by

  • Bennator K.
    January 21, 2019 at 2:02 am

    This post was well written and I’m so happy for you Emmalyn! I pray that God will continue to guide you as you’ve entered into a new chapter of your life??

    • Emmalyn
      February 27, 2019 at 11:36 pm

      Thank you, I appreciate that.

  • Bendu
    January 21, 2019 at 10:09 am

    I’m definitely inspire thanks for sharing. I’ve been there and didn’t know how to let go but thanks for reinforcing that letting go is ok

    • Emmalyn
      February 27, 2019 at 11:35 pm

      Aww thanks for reading. All your love and support means a lot to me.

  • Faith
    January 22, 2019 at 9:08 pm

    Beautiful…I am so proud of you. You are an amazing woman and i know that you will do great things in the future. Love u.

    • Emmalyn
      February 27, 2019 at 11:33 pm

      Thanks Faith, means a lot. I appreciate you stopping by.

  • Janjay vickie
    January 22, 2019 at 11:30 pm

    Awww I love you have tears in my eyes right now while reading this . Before I start just want to let you , I am so proud of you , we may not talk or hanging everyday but I am always praising you for all your accomplishments. May this new journey bring you more happiness in the name of the most high. I am the same way always wishing to find the best in people and afraid to let go. I am still learning everyday to clean out my closet letting go of friendships and things that I don’t need in my life . Thank you inspirational message , I am so happy came on to read this blog today. There are still room for me to get better and I am working on it .????????❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️????????

    • Emmalyn
      February 27, 2019 at 11:32 pm

      Thank for so much Vickie, means a lot to me. You are such an amazing person don’t change because of other people.

  • Christine
    February 25, 2019 at 1:50 pm

    “I hold on to relationships even when they expire. I tell myself I have invested too much time and energy into it so I might as well stick it out even if that means I have to live an unhappy life.” This is so me! I love reading your blog it’s so uplifting and inspirational. ?

    • Emmalyn
      February 27, 2019 at 11:30 pm

      Thank you so much for stopping by Christine.


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