Eat Pray Love

“When the past have passed from you at last, let go. Then climb down and begin the rest of your life. With great joy”…. Eat, Pray, Love

I want to share my journey with you guys in hope to inspire someone out there not be afraid to do the things that scares them. Traveling alone to a foreign country is something that scares the crap out of me, I’ve always had my “security blanket” aka my ex-husband or friends with me when I travelled.

2018 has been my year of total transformation; my entire life changed in a matter of 12months. I got divorced, bought a house, turned 30, shoveled my first snow, serviced my own car, and drove myself out of state for the first time. It’s been a long year and I couldn’t think of a better time to take my first solo trip.  As 2019 approaches, I feel the need to conquer this fear of mine before heading into the new year. It’s something that I always wanted to do.

It’s a great time to reflect on what I want in this new chapter of my life and remember who I was before I became a girlfriend, a mother, and an ex-wife. I want to head into 2019 with a clear mind and be ready for all the great things it has in store for me.

When you meet someone and spend so much of your young adult life with them, you become dependent on them without even realizing it. I met my ex when I was 20yrs old (10yrs ago). I got comfortable, became complacent, and forgot how to stand on my own two feet. I’m not even sure when it happened.

See, the funny thing is, I was on my own by age 17. I lived alone, paid my own bills and did everything for myself and by myself. Somewhere down the Iine, I met a guy and forgot how to do things for myself. I got comfortable.  Don’t get me wrong, I work, but I forgot basic life skills.  I had no idea when my insurance was due or when my car needed an oil change. After my divorce, I actually drove my car for 4 months without realizing it needed an oil change, that’s how bad I’d gotten. I never did anything by myself or for myself anymore. Whenever something happened my first instinct was to pick up the phone and call my ex, I had forgotten how to solve problems on my own.

 My divorce was a wakeup call; it was as if I was sleeping and someone poured a bucket of cold water on me without warning. It woke me up, and for that I’m grateful. I wasn’t at first, it took some time. In life you have two choices: you can let your problems either defeat you or develop you. I chose to let my problems develop me, and I’m embracing the changes and growth.

I’ve been asked why Bali, why didn’t I pick somewhere close by or in the States. The answer is that, I wanted to travel outside of my comfort zone. Of course, I did my research and Bali (Ubud) is one of the safest cities for a female to travel alone which was a plus. I’ve read on numerous blogs that it is a great place for healing the mind, body, and soul, and I can definitely use some healing. Also, since watching Eat, Pray, Love it’s been on my bucket list.

I was at work a few days before my 30th birthday and I decided to just purchase the ticket, and I bought it, opting out of the insurance. I know myself too well, if I were to purchase insurance, I would’ve gotten scared and cancel the ticket.

Even without insurance, I’ve tried cancelling my ticket many times, but it’s non-refundable so I’m forced to go. I made up lots of reasons in my head why I don’t need to go, like that I can’t leave Ethan (my 3yr son) for 2 weeks and so on but the truth is, I’m terrified. Just the thought of a 48 hour travel time by myself is scary, but I made a vow to myself after my divorce to never play it safe, if its scares me I’m doing it. I want to do all the things that scare me. I read this quote on Pinterest is a great reminder.

“It’s okay to be scared. It just means you are about to do something brave”

I’m ready to embark on this journey. I’m excited and nervous at the same time. More excited than nervous; I’m ready to spend time with myself, to trust my own instincts, depend on myself, solve my own problems, and guide myself, of course with the help of God. I hope you do the same, and make a vow to do one thing that scares you each day. It can be as small as starting a conversation with stranger; let’s practice living fearlessly, that’s my goal for 2019.

 Be sure to follow me on Instagram, let take this journey together.

Talk to you on the other side.

Stay fierce.


  • Vivi
    December 6, 2018 at 6:01 pm

    I love, love love the courage you are taking. You just inspire me to do the same. I will love to take a solo trip. I am now going to watch eat, pray, love. Can’t wait to see how much fun you have in Bali. Safe travel love. ?????

    • Emmalyn
      December 8, 2018 at 2:15 am

      Aww thanks twin.
      I’m excited for great things coming our way I’m 2019.

  • Chigi
    December 7, 2018 at 5:43 am

    Congratulations on the next chapter of your life darling & I hope you have lots of fun rediscovering & falling in love again with who you are. What you’re doing is so brave & so worth it. They say life starts at the end of your comfort zone so cheers to living life to the fullest.


    • Emmalyn
      December 8, 2018 at 2:15 am

      Hey Chigi,
      Thank you so much for the words of encouragement, I truly appreciate it.

  • Fabbulousc
    December 7, 2018 at 8:56 am

    Powerful words of encouragement , congrats on every solo things you do on your own YOU CAN LET YOUR PROBLEMS EITHER DEFEAT YOU OR DEVELOP YOU , i love every read about this blog THANKS FOR SHARING AND HAVE A FABULOUS TRIP

    • Emmalyn
      December 8, 2018 at 2:13 am

      Hey Caroline,
      I appreciate you stopping by. I’m
      So happy to hear you enjoyed the post. It’s very hard for us African women to open up about fail relationships and out insecurities, you never know how our people are going to react to it. My hope moving forward is to be more transparency so we can help each other through these tissue.

  • Natalie Jones
    December 7, 2018 at 10:04 am

    I adore you! Thank you for your transparency! God is with you, you will not fail ? have fun & I’ll be watching!

    • Emmalyn
      December 8, 2018 at 2:09 am

      Ahhh thanks, sis.
      I admire all that you’re doing, greater things ahead. Hopefully, we can set up that playdate when I get back

  • Lisha
    December 7, 2018 at 3:26 pm

    Very proud of you girl! Sometimes you need that rejection to boast your confidence and remind you of what you’re made of. The eagle has to fly high up in the sky, then drop its eaglets. The eaglets then learn to fly on their own out of frustration and fear of dying. Sometimes you need chaos to find yourself. Proud of you babe. Be safe ?

    • Emmalyn
      December 8, 2018 at 2:07 am

      Amen to that ?? I definitely needed that boast to get my confidence back. I’m ready for the next chapter of this journey call life. Thank you!!!!

  • Tomah
    December 7, 2018 at 7:22 pm

    Omg, Bali is beautiful!! Enjoy. Also life teaches you many lessons. And being strong is one that you have conquered and many more to go!!!

    • Emmalyn
      December 8, 2018 at 2:05 am

      Hey little sis,
      Thank you, I’m taking it one day at any time. Hopefully next year we can plan a girls trip.

  • Pauline
    December 7, 2018 at 9:12 pm

    Oh wow! Bravo girl! I’m inspired to do something out of my comfort zone for 2019! Thet say You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone and change begins at the end of your comfort zone …
    Pheeew Chile!!! You did it! I have heard so much about Bali. I can’t wait to see what adventures you will get into! Enjoy!!

    • Emmalyn
      December 8, 2018 at 2:03 am

      Hey Pauline,
      Thanks stopping by. I love that quote, i’ve read it multiple times these last few months as reminder to stop being afraid. I’m so happy to hear the post impaired you, that was my goal; if I can inspire one person than I’m happy.

  • Yvonne
    December 7, 2018 at 9:50 pm

    Enjoy yourself, I know you will. You are stronger than you know. Hugs

  • Sese
    December 7, 2018 at 10:35 pm

    U go Emm. Proud of u. I did mines and I had multitude of emotions. However, it has been yet my most cherished investment. Be safe and enjoy..

    • Emmalyn
      December 8, 2018 at 2:00 am

      Thank you, Secon. Hopefully we can take our next trip together soon.

  • Louisa
    December 9, 2018 at 9:00 am

    You’re one strong lady! Thanks for sharing your journey with us.

    • Emmalyn
      February 27, 2019 at 11:38 pm

      Hey boo, thanks for stopping by.

  • Bali
    January 20, 2019 at 10:17 pm

    […] Bali, Indonesia has been on my bucket-list since I watched ‘Eat Pray Love’,r before it started trending on Instagram. The end of 2018 seemed like the perfect time to embark on my first solo trip as I had gone through my divorce and also turned 30. Read my previous post you haven’t done so already ( Eat Pray Love ). […]

  • Zuleka
    January 21, 2019 at 3:21 pm

    I wanted to say you are brave and your are amazing for this, but I will just say you are my hero. Thank you for giving pouring yourself into this. I felt your strength through each paragraph. Blessings & Love!

    • Emmalyn
      February 27, 2019 at 11:34 pm

      Thanks for all the love & support.


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